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Post by Lilian on Apr 13, 2009 13:53:04 GMT
I was down at my daughters yeaterday sitting outside with her mad cats Millie and Samson, both are happy full of energy and crazy! however, i left about 4.45 , my daughter tried to get them in but they wanted to stay out in the sun, so she decided to leave them out (but she left a window open incase they wanted in) Both her and her partner went for dinner at his mums, when they came back about an hour later the cats came in for more food and a big cuddle then went back out for a play. However about half an hour later someone knocked on her door and said do you have a black and white cat, she ran out and poor Millie was lying in the road bleeding from her head, mouth and nose, My daughter new it was too late to get her to the vets so just stroked and talked to her, Poor Millie died a few seconds after! It turned out the the person whp had knocked her down lives in her street and new who Millie belonged to. Poor Millie was only 2 and a half years old and such a little cutie, Samson my other daughters cat is so distressed, he's walking round crying and has stopped eating, he has even tied to dig up the garden where Millie is buried. The only thing positive about it is that poor Millie wouldn't have suffered and she died with my daughter stroking and talking to her. I hope she rests in peace, and Samson can get over losing his best friend and playmate. We are all devastated about this she was so young fit, healthy and happy. Do you think getting another cat would be a good idea for her other cat or best let him grieve?
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Post by cheryl on Apr 14, 2009 1:15:35 GMT
how awful RIP Millie xx as for another cat maybe it does help.. a few yrs ago we had Maggie and Tegan, they adored each other, Tegan died and Maggie was grieving, she too was attracted to the grave but she sort of stood there as if moarning for her "sister" she seemed so depressed, we all were.. Just 3 days later i got Molly it was in the hope Maggie would accept another cat easier if we done it early but mainly i got Molly to take the kids mind of tegan.. the wrong reason and i just grabbed the only kitten available at the time, but i knew although an impulse buy that cat was going to get a good home. Maggie more so just put up with Molly. she was never nasty to her but not best friends either (Mind Molly adored Maggie) *ps one of my recent posts shows a video of Molly and Maggie*.. sadly just 11 months later Maggie died too . i too was stroking and talking to her as she passed, i was on my way to a vet but she passed before i got there.. Molly was so upset and started fur pulling she got herself in quite a state and pulled out a lot of her own fur.. i did vow i'd not get another cat but 3 weeks later found myself with Martha kitten then another 3 weeks Later Lexi kitten followed.. Molly was not impressed at 1st but we took it slowly, made sure she got more of the cuddles if the babies were in the room with Molly..the "babies" are almost 2 yr old now, Molly is almost 3yr old and Molly adores her sisters.. they do have the odd disagreement but mainly that's Martha and Lexi, Molly just wants to be friends. For me it worked out getting another cat, but some won't accept a new pet so readily.. both times when a cat died the other stopped eating for a while and they do seem so sad. I never would have believed how upset they can be till i saw it for myself.. sleep tight Millie
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Post by Lilian on Apr 14, 2009 17:39:28 GMT
My daughter has told me her other cat samson is still pinning terribly for poor Millie, crying, not sleeping, still off his food, wandering roung the flat aimlessly. Her partner stayed up with him all night last night giving him loads of cuddles and affection, but he's still one very very sad puss, he's only young himself approx 1 and half but he's had upsets in his life, an unwanted little lad, until my daughter took in now losing his best friend, it breaks my heart seeing his so so sad and upset. My daughter is devastated about losing poor Millie and is now worried sick about samson.
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Post by Chris - Cats Protection on Apr 15, 2009 9:22:20 GMT
Samson is grieving for Millie, and he needs to do that.
Like ourselves, animals form bonds, and when that bond is broken, time has to heal.
So please do not rush to do anything. Another cat might help, but if its the wrong one, then it will make things worse, so please dont rush.
Thought now has to go into how to avoid this happening again, you dont want to get another cat and have a repeat.
Is there anyway of making the garden secure?
I know these days more and more cat owners, myself included are taking measures to ensure the cats have a safe place to play and be cats. I have my garden covered over with netting, as I dont want to go through the pain of a cat beng killed again...
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Post by Lilian on Apr 15, 2009 13:34:25 GMT
I think they are going to make a run in the garden for samson but their garden is not very big. I know people say oh it's just a cat but when you love and cherish them they are your babies and their love for us humans are unreserved, they know when your happy, sad, unwell etc and give you love and comfort in return all they want is a nice lap to curl up on, food and a lot of play and cuddles
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Post by cheryl on Apr 15, 2009 17:10:53 GMT
the ones who say it's only a cat are not cat lovers, some seem to think you can only get "close" to dogs. i still get upset at times over cats i've lost. I worry about how i'll feel when my daughters hamster dies cos she such a sweet little hamster. In fact i think i'll cry when my fish dies. hubby has a fish tank they are his but Angela the Angel fish is mine and she will take food from my hand. i'll be upset when she goes and it's not even like she can give me love or anything. I'd love a run for my girls but i know where we live kids would trash it . some little creep even smashed up the cat ornament that marks Maggies grave .. Tegans flowers were also trampled on.. .. before the flowers grew there i put some plastic ones down and they were stolen ..
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Post by Lilian on Apr 16, 2009 18:12:44 GMT
how horrble for you, i wish people wouldn't be so cruel, would they do that to there own family's grave? i hope they wouldn't, but some kids are just cruel and nasty. I have bought some fencing to put round Millies grave and getting a little headstone/plaque made for her and a small lantern, i know i'm crazy but i got Millie for my daughter when she moved into her own flat and fell she was partly mine as i spent a lot of time with them both.
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Post by fyona on Apr 16, 2009 21:43:39 GMT
Im so sorry to hear about Millie, however a run would be a good idea dosent need to be anything big or fancy, mine is not that big but it does a great job and the cats love it. If your daughter needs any wire to make one I have quite a bit here that she is welcome to left over off mine, or any one else who would like to make a run. I hope Samson is feeling better soon.
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Post by jan2404 on Apr 25, 2009 18:16:11 GMT
sorry to hear about millie. hope samson picks up soon.
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Post by Lilian on Jul 17, 2009 12:59:14 GMT
just an update, my daughter can,t settle in her flat as millie was killed just outside her door, so she is now moving over the road from me. Samson has a new playmate a kitten from the girls she works with, she is adorable and samson loves her to bits, he cleans her from head to toe more than once a day, they play constantly, eat together, sleep together etc. She also tries to suckle from him and had to have cream from the vets for sore nipples! she has just about stopped that now thank goodness. So a happy ending for samson and her new little one Flaggs ( named after the place she works with the other nurses)
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Post by carolefu on Nov 18, 2009 18:04:05 GMT
I've just read this post and I understand how your daughter is feeling. In Sculley's case she was comfort eating. But when we got Maggie & Merlyn, she had, & still has competition for food. This means, that the weight she'd put on before the kittens arrived it's come off (I hope!) They have the occasional spat, & sometimes they'll even the occasional cuddle-up together, then go to sleep. They'll even occasionally groom each other. But as Maggie & Merlyn mature, hopefully, they'll stop being so boisterous!!! Carole.
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