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Post by Chris - Cats Protection on Oct 9, 2006 18:12:09 GMT
Its never easy to cope with the death of a pet, its hard, and it hurts. The grief is as real as that of losing a family member, the only difference is, the pain of losing a pet is intense but does get better relatively quickly. That doesnt help when you are in pain, and no one seems to understand why. As a result most people keep this pain bottled up, which only prolongs the pain and often can lead to further problems. Here we understand, we have all felt it, some of us, over and over again, yet we keep on, why? because the love we receive from our pets is worth every moment of the pain. Avoiding that pain by not having a pet, leaves a lives so much emptier. Here you can share your feelings, release some of that pain.
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Post by rusty11 on Sept 8, 2007 14:15:12 GMT
Hi there, We had our Rusty for 18 years - he was a beautiful ginger tom with white front and ginger paws - I miss him so much. He was a beautiful cat - when we first moved here the children around the doors used to put him in the dolls pram and gently cover him with the blanket - he used to go to sleep in the pram. Everyone loved him. As he got older, he was more a 'house' cat - for which in a way I was grateful as he was always there - and he used to know if I was down or whatever. Sometimes I long to pick him up and stroke him - oh - I will miss him forever I am sure. We do have another tom cat - he is 21 now. Our Ringo....he often wanders about looking all over, so now I have given him the run of the house - and on a night time he does do a strange meow as if he is calling for our Rusty - so I know I am not the only one - well our Andrew my son and John miss Rusty too - but he was my cat...
I am so pleased to read your posting Chris because it makes me realise it is natural to miss a cat so much.
I am unsure whether our Ringo would ever get used to another cat in the house.
I also know that no other cat could take Rusty's place. So perhaps I should wait a while longer before I even dream about getting another one.
Rusty has been gone now since 12 July 2007.
Thank you for this forum.
Margaret
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Post by Chris - Cats Protection on Sept 10, 2007 22:44:24 GMT
Hi Margaret,
You are right you can never replace a cat that is loved so very much, but you can love another one who can grow to be just as special in your heart. You will know when the time is right, and now is obviously not that time, as you want Ringo to feel he is special, which he is.
Its always right to talk about these feelings, share them, as we have every right to mourn the loss of our pets, especially when they have been there for us during the good times, and the bad.
Your loss is still raw, I lost Tiddleup, my 13 year old on the 30th June, and I still see her everywhere, I even feel sure I hear her, and maybe I do, maybe she is still with me, helping me to heal.
Give yourself time Margaret, enjoy the good memories, and in time the next special one will come along, and you will be ready to bond once more.
We are always around to share.......
Chris xx
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Post by susan on Nov 23, 2007 13:22:56 GMT
Margaret i'm so sorry for your loss of Rusty Like Chris said it's like losing a family member, and no one understands this apart from true animal lovers. I know a lady in the USA who has spent over 20 years looking after strays and ferals, along with her own cats, and she always says to sit with the animal that's grieving such as Ringo, and explain what happend to Rusty and that he's crossed over Rainbow Bridge where he's happy and healthy again. But tell Ringo that he'll see him again one day, and Rusty will be the first face that he see's at the other end because he'll be waiting to take him to his new home Again, like Chris said, no one can ever take the place for Rusty, but theres a little furball out there just waiting to help heal your broken heart. RIP Rusty
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